My mum is trying to make me climb a mountain?

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lng liv

Lately my mum has been so obsessed with trying to make her kids better and force us to do stuff we don't want to do, it's so annoying. She put my name down to volunteer six hours every Saturday in a charity shop from 9am-2pm, then she said I have to get the bus home for no particular reason and she knows that I get panic attacks when I'm out too long. Now she's trying to force me to do the Duke of Edinburgh Award, which I wouldn't mind if it didn't mean I have to do hikes and camp in a tent on a mountain for three freaking days. I finished cancer treatment last year and I'm still not really in any position to be heavy lifting or running or any form of extreme exercise, never mind climbing a mountain! Plus, I'm afraid of heights which just makes everything so much worse. She's also trying to find a shop that will take me every single day this summer. I'm not kidding, this woman is driving me insane! She won't see reason, any time I tell her I don't want to do something she just yells and says I have to and to get on with it. She's just so obsessed with getting kids that she can boast about no matter how unhappy we all are. I don't have a dad to make her lay off and it's only me, my mum and my two little brothers. She's forced my brother into the cycling club and she's trying to do the same with me, despite the fact I can't even ride a bike. I swear she's just picking everything I can't do and making me do it. Advice?
I like the shop, but she did it behind my back so she's almost trying to sneakily make me do stuff.

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sounds like she's trying to at least push you to do constructive things even if she's going about it wrong. My suggestion...come up with some things you'd like to do around the same guidelines as she has and compromise with her. for example...mom I don't like working at this shop but I love animals what do you think about me volunteering at the pet shelter.. find things you like to do and then give her a list....I don't agree with the way she's pushing you into things but at least this way you can do something you'd like instead of something she's forcing you to do...

Need motivation to exercise?

Evoo

I despise exercising - I hate the grueling grind day after day of a solitary excursion on the elliptical machines or the tedious counting inside your head that goes along with lifting weights. I've tried swimming, tennis, dancing, and can't bring myself to sweat away thirty minutes of my day after I've had to deal all day with a job that gives me panic attacks (working on switching career paths, but hard in this economy).

I need motivation. I've overweight for my size - not so much that I can't still fit my pants from two years ago, but enough that I've developed the dreaded muffin lining around my hips. I know that with some iron clad determination to I could easily go back to being the petite size that I was.

But wanting some veg time for myself, and wanting to hang out with my husband (who I barely get to see on weeknights due to his class schedule), it always goes on the back burner. I've never been the type of person to appreciate the "after burn" of a good workout. But I went to laser tag recently and was sore for days after.

Any tips from the masses who hate excerise and manage to get it done anyway? What did you do? How do I pick myself up from my bootstraps and get started on a regime I can keep to rather than telling myself, "eff this, I'm going to go build something on Minecraft."?

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Well believe it or not. Just over 4 years ago I was very overweight, extremely unfit, and also had high blood pressure.

Exercise was something I had never really participated in (apart from when I was a young girl at school). I just hated exercise so much and could never manage to keep going with it. Yes, I bought various exercise bikes, aerobic fitness/dance dvds. And all of them after a couple of weeks just put them away in the corner to collect more and more dust.

But after a family get together one afternoon. We decided to put on some old videos/dvds of when we were that bit younger. And one of them was when I first got married and the other was after I had my youngest son. Well I really could not believe how much I had changed.

This was when I decided to change my lifestyle. I set out to eat a healthy, balanced low fat diet with plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables. But secondly embark on some regular form of exercise. So I initially started walking at a fast pace. Around 3/4 times a week. For about 30 minutes at a time. Then after a few weeks incorporated a little bit of running into it. I kept this up and at around 6 weeks I was running without having to stop and walk.

I managed to lose 52lbs in just over 6 months. This has now just be over 4 years. I have since then been able to maintain my weight with ease.

I am now a regular runner. And run around 5/6 times a week. I started running at the age of 46 and I will be 50 in June. There is saying it is never too late. I can really vouch for that. I have run various marathons. I ran the Edinburgh Marathon, New York Marathon and London Marathon last year and I have also a place in the London Marathon this April too.

The benefits have been absolutely amazing. I feel so healthy. My blood pressed is not high anymore. In fact it is low. I have so much energy. Feel very confident.

Try to find an exercise that you enjoy. This way it will be easier to incorporate it into a regular routine. Make exercise part of your daily routine. Just as you brush your teeth in the morning, or wash you hair in the evening. 30 minutes 4/5 times a week is really easy to fit in.

Anyway, I wish you lots of luck and hope you have the success that I have had.

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